Estrangement

Sometimes creating distance is the hardest thing you’ll ever do. Sometimes it’s the thing that finally lets you breathe. Often, it’s both.

You might be here because…

• You’ve gone no-contact or low-contact with a family member and are struggling with what comes next.

• You miss someone you know you can’t safely have in your life, and the feelings still catch you off guard.

• You’re tired of managing everyone else’s feelings about your choices, and you’re ready to figure out who you are without all the noise.

• You’re building a life and relationships that feel like your own, without a clear model for how to do it.

What we’ll explore

Estrangement is rarely an easy decision, and it almost never comes with a clean ending. We'll talk about the late nights spent searching their name online, the quiet wondering if they know about your life's big moments—or if they'd even care—and the constant second-guessing of whether you're doing any of this “right.”

Therapy is a space for all of it: the anger, the grief, the guilt, the relief, the unanswered questions, and even the part of you that still hopes. We'll make room for the relationship you had, the person you've been, and who you are now. We'll work on quieting the voice inside that whispers:

• “You're being selfish.”

• “This is your fault and yours to fix.”

• “You're unlovable.”

I'm not here to tell you to reconcile, forgive, or keep your distance. My approach leaves room for the complicated parts: loving someone who is not there, questioning the distance even when you know why you need it, and the fact that what feels right can change over time. My goal is to help you untangle past relationships so they're not in charge of who you are today, and leave therapy feeling more certain of your own voice.